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Ask Amy: Should I tell them why I’m so angry at my dead husband?

Dear Amy: After my husband’s recent unexpected death, I learned about his longtime affair with a co-worker (conducted while they traveled for work).

Amy Dickinson 

I found emails, letters and enough proof to make any spouse beyond angry.

I am struggling with dealing with grief and anger at the same time.

Should I tell my adult children about their father, or take this secret with me to the grave?

Angry Widow

Dear Angry: You are experiencing the earlier cycles of grief, compounded by your understandable anger regarding your husband’s affair.

You see this as an either/or: Tell, or take this secret to the grave.

Woman arrested after surveillance video captures her trying to poison husband’s coffee with roach killer

<p>Surveillance video captured Suncha Tinerva, of Queens, New York, trying to poison her husband’s coffee with roach killer.</p> (AFP via Getty Images)

Surveillance video captured Suncha Tinerva, of Queens, New York, trying to poison her husband’s coffee with roach killer.

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A 70-year-old woman was arrested after she was caught on camera trying to poison her husband with roach killer by pouring it into his coffee, prosecutors say.

Suncha Tinerva was taken into custody after allegedly repeatedly to poison her husband with insect killer.

The woman was caught on camera pouring a substance into her husband’s coffee. The incident occurred on 12 January according to Queen’s District Attorney Melinda Katz’s office.

“Tinerva retrieved the bottle from the cabinet under the sink and allegedly spiked her husband’s coffee on two or three occasions,” Ms Katz’s office told ABC News. “On Jan. 14, 2021 at approximately 10:40 p.m. … detectives recovered a bottle with a red cap and yellow label from the spot under the sink.”

It is unclear why the camera was installed in the couple’s home.

According to Ms Katz’s office, the bottle was ant and roach killer that contained 100 per cent boric acid.

According to the National Pesticide Information Centre, boric acid can cause an array of health issues if it is ingested by a human.

“People who have eaten boric acid have had nausea, vomiting, stomach aches, and diarrhea … Eating extreme amounts has resulted in a red, ‘boiled lobster’ like skin rash, followed by skin loss. People who breathed in borax had a dry mouth, nose, and throat. Coughing, sore throat, shortness of breath, and nose bleeds have also been reported,” the centre wrote on its website.

Ms Katz’s office said the husband became sick, but is otherwise in good condition and is not at risk of death.

The district attorney said the case, while not a typical domestic abuse case, still fell under that designation.

Domestic violence is not limited to mental and physical abuse. The defendant in this case allegedly used deception to sicken her spouse,” Ms Katz said in a statement.

Ms Tinerva has been charged with attempted assault in the second degree, reckless endangerment in the second degree and criminal possession of a weapon in the fourth degree.

If she is convicted, she could face up to four years in prison.

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Golden Gate Bridge could be crowded this weekend: Roadshow

Q: Every year on my husband‘s birthday our family walks across the Golden Gate Bridge. We are planning to go this weekend. I would like to find out if the bridge has been very busy with people walking since we are very concerned about COVID-19 issues. We don’t want to be walking very close to other people. Also, will the parking lot be open?

Joan Rabin, Los Altos

A: I love your tradition. Bridge visitorship has declined significantly during the pandemic, but there is occasional crowding on weekends and holidays. With dry and warm weather forecast this Martin Luther King Jr. Day holiday weekend, I would expect a good number of walkers. Bridge officials will announce their plans today for this weekend. Check goldengate.org for updated information.

Any parking lot closures will be highlighted on a bright orange banner at the top of the page.

Keep face masks on, and maintain physical distance, as you normally would. Try to hold to your tradition, and be ready to make that celebratory birthday walk together belatedly, on a quieter weekend, if crowds make it COVID-unsafe.

Q: Why does the 10-mile stretch of Highway 101 between Gilroy and Morgan Hill seem so forgotten?

A major effort to rehab the road was made back in 2016, I believe. A cement mixing facility was actually set up in one of the cloverleaves. But this effort resulted in the patched areas being considerably higher than the surrounding pavement. The road was almost more uncomfortable than before that repair. Despite two attempts to repair it, you can still feel the patches.

Today, the southbound lane three is a mess. Some parts cannot be driven in if you care about your load or vehicle. My question is, why this road did not get more attention?

Steve Sayle

A: There are plans to widen 101 into San Benito County in a few more years. But here’s the bad news. Repaving 101 is not on the list anytime soon.

Q: I have traveled from New Mexico and Arizona to California, and the difference in driver behavior is staggering. All through New Mexico and Arizona, folks move to the right when not passing. Not here.

Christa Fenus-Cates

Ask Amy: I just learned something disturbing about my longtime friends

Dear Amy: I’ve been texting back and forth with my now-deceased husband’s cousins for years.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

They have been extremely supportive toward me. They all traveled to see and support me, attending his memorial service last year. Overall, a very friendly relationship. I love them a lot.

Today — as usual — I was included in their text conversation, which veered unexpectedly into some comments about how victimized they feel because of the results of the U.S. presidential election. Their political leanings have not come up before.

They don’t strike me as unintelligent people, but they are all very conservative, politically and religiously. I do not agree with their comments at all.

Should I just ignore and not respond, or should I comment? I’m not happy about this. I do not know how to respond without offending them.

Ask Amy: He was a spiteful husband, and now he expects me to be his friend

Dear Amy: For several years I had been unhappy with my husband’s defensiveness and the hair-trigger irritability he had displayed since our younger days (we are both in our early 70s), but I decided to stick with him after he was diagnosed with a potentially debilitating condition.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

After being soundly berated for unjust reasons (such as the look on my face), I pulled away but still made nice dinners, exchanged ideas about books, watched movies together, etc.

He announced that he was going to start “dating.” He told me that in fact he had already signed up for an online matching site. I told him that in that case I wanted a divorce, and, no, I wasn’t interested in working on salvaging the marriage.

To my surprise, he met someone almost immediately, and yet still expected me to live cordially with him. He acted as if this was his right.

Maya Harris aided effort to boost husband’s attorney general bid

Maya Harris has participated in conversations with allies aimed at boosting her husband’s candidacy for attorney general, according to people familiar with the calls.

Harris, the sister of Kamala Harris, is married to Tony West, the chief legal officer at Uber and former U.S. associate attorney general in the Obama administration.

Allies have floated West’s name as a possible contender to serve as the nation’s top law enforcement official, but others have ruled him out of contention because he is related to the vice president-elect. His work as Uber’s top lawyer, given the company’s legal troubles, have also raised concerns about his ability to fill the role.

Maya Harris has worked in Democratic politics for years, including serving as chair of her sister’s presidential campaign, which collapsed in December amid infighting between warring factions. She also worked as one of three senior policy advisers to Hillary Clinton on her 2016 campaign after working at the Ford Foundation and the American Civil Liberties Union. Maya Harris is extremely close with her sister, but she did not hold an official position on the Biden campaign after Kamala Harris joined the ticket.

“Maya Harris is not waging a campaign for her husband as the next attorney general,” a Kamala Harris aide said.

The aide added that Harris and West requested and participated in an ethics briefing to ensure they would abide by all Biden transition guidelines. Maya Harris and West declined to comment.

West is not considered to be a front-runner for Biden’s pick, but he has received some buzz for the position. Biden’s top contenders for attorney general include former deputy attorney general Sally Yates, former Massachusetts governor Deval Patrick, former Homeland Security secretary Jeh Johnson and Alabama Sen. Doug Jones, who lost his reelection bid in November. Biden said Monday he planned to announce his selection this week.

Ben Crump, the civil rights attorney who has represented the families of Breonna Taylor, George Floyd and Jacob Blake, publicly advocated for Biden to select West in a USA TODAY op-ed late last month.

“In my view, there is no one more uniquely qualified for this role given this significant moment in history than Tony West, the brother-in-law of Vice President-elect Kamala Harris,” Crump wrote.

In the Obama administration, West served as the third-highest-ranking official and ran the department’s civil rights division. After leaving the administration, he joined PepsiCo in a senior role before decamping for Uber. The ride-hailing service has faced a litany of lawsuits in recent years, including some over its use of gig workers, as well as over sexual assault and safety issues.

Beyond his legal work, West’s relationship to Kamala Harris is likely a nonstarter for many Democrats, who have eviscerated President Donald Trump over the last four years for elevating his family to key White House positions. Trump’s daughter Ivanka and her husband, Jared Kushner, are both top advisers to the president. The foreign business entanglements of Biden’s son, Hunter, were a flash point during his presidential run, and Biden has shown he is eager to avoid any conflicts of interest in his administration.

“My son, my family will not be involved in any business, any enterprise, that is in conflict with or appears to be in conflict, with the appropriate distance from, the presidency and government,” Biden said in an interview with CNN last week.

Dear Abby: I don’t appreciate her Christmas tradition, but everyone tells me to keep quiet

DEAR ABBY: Every year for the last 15 years or so, my husband’s sister has sent us a huge box of homemade cookies for Christmas. My husband is from a large family, and she does this for each family.

Jeanne Phillips 

I know it involves a great deal of time and effort on her part, and she sends them via priority mail, which means an additional expense.

The problem is, we don’t eat cookies. Weight is a concern for both of us, and I avoid sugar or sugar products as I don’t believe they are healthy.

Before we retired, we took the cookies to work to get rid of them or they were thrown out.

Melania Joins Chorus Trying to Get Her Husband to Concede: Report

Melania Trump is reportedly the latest in her husband’s inner circle to try to convince the president of the United States that he lost the race against Joe Biden, CNN reports.

The first lady has not publicly commented on the election results, but CNN reports that she privately weighed in with her personal opinion. “She has offered it, as she often does,” a source close to the Trump household told CNN.

The news comes amid mixed reports about senior adviser Jared Kushner’s approach to his father-in-law. Axios and NBC News reported that Kushner told Trump to keep fighting, while CNN said he approached Trump about conceding.

So far, President Trump has responded by digging his heels in deeper, tweeting and retweeting people who back up his mantra that the election was stolen.

He has not called Biden and gave no indication that he was planning any statements on Sunday as he got in his motorcade and drove to his golf course—where he was Saturday when the election was called for his rival.

His personal lawyer, Rudy Giuliani, said on Fox News on Sunday morning that the legal team plans to file a new round of challenges to the balloting—even though none of the lawsuits filed so far have been successful and experts say there are no grounds to dispute the outcome.

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Heat stroke killed woman who got trapped in husband’s police car

Heat stroke has been declared the cause of death of a Miami woman who got trapped in her husband’s police SUV.

Clara Paulino, 56, was found dead on Aug. 21 in the Ford Explorer outside the family’s Miami Shores home. She had apparently been there for about four hours as temperatures exceeded 90 degrees.

Her husband, Aristides Paulino, a Miami police officer, was sleeping in the home after his overnight shift.

The report released this week by the Miami-Dade medical examiner’s office said Clara Paulino suffered from chronic health conditions including diabetes and thyroid disease, but it listed only heat stroke as a cause of death.

She also had fresh bruises on her hands, suggesting she had pounded on the windows in an attempt to break them or attract attention.

In the initial report on the death, Miami-Dade police said the woman had gotten into the back seat of the SUV, apparently to look for something. The door closed and, because the vehicle is used to transport people in custody, it can be opened only from the outside.

A grille separates the back seat from the front, and there are bars on the back windows. Paulino did not have a phone with her.

Though the Paulino house is on a corner of busy North Miami Avenue, the SUV was parked on the side, along a much less traveled street.

Paulino’s body was found by her husband and one of their sons.

Ask Amy: When they need my husband’s help, this woman is suddenly nice to me again

Dear Amy: “Sally” and I were “friends” on Facebook. We weren’t close, but our husbands were pals and my husband would often help hers with home projects. Sally tended to be needy and volatile, cutting people off when she disagreed with them.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

Recently, Sally put a political post on FB and I responded to it in a way that she found offensive. She removed my comment. I then messaged her that I was sorry, and that I realized I had erred. I asked for reconciliation and asked if we could talk about it.

In response, she unfriended me and sent what I consider to be a very nasty message. I understand that she does not have to forgive me nor maintain any kind of contact.

Meanwhile, Sally’s husband asked mine for help with some cabinetry in their new home. My husband spent the day working there.

That same day Sally (who I had not heard from in a long time) texted me in a friendly way.

My husband is supposed to go over there this week to work again on this project. I asked him not to go, but later I told him I was over this and would not interfere.